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Hari Minggu, 6 Maret 2011, adalah minggu terakhir sebelum Masa Prapaskah. Biasanya, Pastor membacakan Surat Gembala dari Uskup sebagai pengganti khotbah. “Saya yakin, anda semua bisa membaca sendiri Surat gembakal pada lembaran yang sudah dibagikan di pintu masuk Gereja”, Pastor membuka khotbah. Setelah itu beliau melanjutkan dengan khotbah mengenai pendidikan, yang diakhiri dengan pernyataan bahwa sebuah sekolah (yang mungkin diwakili Pastor tersebut) memiliki sistem pendidikan yang terbaik

Saya baru saja mendengar Pastor mengganti khotbah di Gereja dengan sebuah iklan!

“Ini bukan pertama kali”, komentar ibu saya, pengunjung tetap Gereja tersebut. “Beberapa bulan yang lalu khotbah mengenai sebuah buku, lengkap dengan ulasan isi dan biografi pengarang”

Saya tersenyum pahit. Alkitab jelas mencatat bahwa Yesus mengobrak-abrik lapak orang yang berjualan di Bait Allah. Memang, Pastor kami tidak menjual barang secara fisik di dalam Gereja. Tapi, dengan mengganti khotbah dengan iklan, bukankah sama saja?

Lagipula, saya tidak datang ke Gereja, ke Perayaan Ekaristi mingguan untuk mendengarkan iklan. Kalau memang mencari iklan, cukup dengan menyalakan TV. Iklan yang bisa dilihat jauh lebih menarik, tanpa perlu susah payah bangun pagi dan keluar rumah.

Atau, coba bayangkan skenario ini: Dalam sebuah rapat mingguan di kantor, atasan anda berkata: “Kalian semua bisa baca apa yang akan saya sampaikan di email yang saya kirimkan sebelum rapat.” Dan kemudian atasan anda mulai melakukan promosi buku yang baru dia tulis, atau bisnis MLM yang baru dia jalankan. Oh, semoga Pastor di Gereja tidak tergoda untuk mulai melakukan promosi MLM.

Pada dasarnya, saya tidak keberatan dengan iklan apapun di Gereja, baik itu mengenai buku baru, atau tentang sebuah sekolah. Tapi, ada tempat dan waktu dimana iklan itu dipasang. Di Gereja ada papan pengumuman. Selebaran bisa dibagikan di tempat parkir. Tapi, ketika iklan dilakukan didalam Ibadat, saya rasa itu sudah tidak pantas!

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A recollection, if I may say..

And it makes me think when was the last time I joined this kind church retreat gathering.. 10 or 15 years ago perhaps, ewwwhhhhh.

We have completed pre marital course session last week.

To my surprise, it was not as boring as I thought previously although sitting on flat folded chair for 16 hrs for straight two days absolutely make your bottom feel quite nasty.

Topics learned are basics, some important things you’ve used to ignore or even forget. How to build effective communication, spiritual things on family, how to educate your children, even they taught about basic sexuality session from church perspective. Warning to my anti sexist friends: some of these sessions might burn your head to toe depends on your belief.

The good thing about every session is sharing. Although the lectures taught one way theory but in between there are always sharing time from couples, neither the lectures neither the members. This is not about learning from expert how to build your perfect family, but by listening to other people stories about the ugly and bad things and how they survive, hoping that you’ll find your own strength and faith on your future family life. Because whether you agreed or not, it’s the family tie that bonds your heart and soul later in marriage life.

Another important things are, you were allowed (I said pushed) to express and exchange your feelings to your partner on a basic level which sometimes you never revealed to him or her. Daily routines, conversation, sharing, in any way probably did not touch the essential basic questions because you feel it too common neither why would such stupid questions be asked? In the end, it’s glad to know what your partner has revealed about your good and bad side wide open.

Me, I was interesting on seeing couples who attend this class. Those who dated foreigner, those who dated freelancer, those who talked too much, those who seem sweets and romantic. Couples whom I think smart and good partner, couples who seems the woman take control and vice versa, couples who has been through tough times, couples who survived stormy marriage and so on. And imagining marriage life they’ll enter with their partners, uh oh, I am not magician nor even God but certain funny and sweet feelings rushed my mind that time.

In the end, I was stunned of thingy reality of revelation. Sometimes I did not revealed such things I considered as private even to my close friend, but to new unknown people you’ve just met, bang! You were very fluent to tell about everything and your feelings especially.

The course and session had finished. Not only for legal certificate had we earned but hopefully another basic revelation on stepping into marriage life in the future. When the world seems too busy neither too smart to explore and conquest, returning to the first step always enlightening. We’re never smart enough to understand the mystery of His creation anyway.

I’m raising thank you pray, dear Lord.

Written by She on 18 August 2009

Referring to Marco’s post here (In Bahasa. The author wrote that he has no problem with kids, as long as there are less than 10 of them together), there are things that are worse than 10 kids in one place.

It is a boring kids! Place: Church, during Christmas Eve Mass. Only one is enough….

Merry Christmas……