The Magical Creation of Life

Menurut saya, human embriyogenesis adalah hal yang paling membuat manusia paling mendekati Tuhan. Yap, it is the creation of LIFE! It is magical. And it is so beyond this world.

And we are going to have a baby 😀

Keajaiban ini dimulai pada saat sebuah sel telur dibuahi oleh sel sperma. Gabungan kedua sel ini, yang berukuran sangat kecil, memiliki informasi yang lengkap untuk menjadi sebuah manusia. Jenis kelamin, dan semua instruksi untuk membentuk otak, tangan, kaki, mata, dan bagian-bagian tubuh lainnya. Informasi yang bahkan ilmuwan dengan superkomputer yang sangat canggih masih belum bisa mempelajari secara utuh.

Hasil pemeriksaan oleh dokter menunjukkan bahwa embrio anak kami saat ini berusia 9 minggu. Dan hanya membutuhkan 9 minggu untuk menciptakan tangan, kaki dan mata. Jantung dan Otak? Kedua organ tersebut bahkan sudah tercipta beberapa minggu sebelumnya. Jantung anak kami saat ini berdenyut 180 detak per menit.

Terima Kasih ya Tuhan, atas keajaiban ini. Kami mohon berkatMu atas anak titipanmu, semoga Engkau berikan apa yang terbaik menurutMu. Dan untuk teman-teman yang sedang hamil, nikmatilah keajaiban ini, seperti kami menikmatinya

Married to Widower

I’m sitting in the church, waiting for the evening mass to start. The talks I had with mom few hours before won’t slip out of my head. He asked my comment for her friend, which is unhappy with the fact that her daughter is dating a widower.

“He has two kid. And he also live in different city!” my mom said. From her voice and gestures, I can sense some anxiety in her. Although she does not said explicitly, I know that she would also disagree if it happened to her daughter.

The mass has entered to the Liturgy of Word as I continue to think about it. Is there something wrong if you are marrying a widow or widower with kids? What would the religion said? As we get into a reading from Gospel, I recalled that Catholicism forbid a second marriage. A Catholic marriage is once in a lifetime, and only once. But since the widower was not married in Catholic, he is not bind by this rule.

What would be the social consequence by having a spouse or son/daughter in law, who were married before? “People will think that you are so bad, ugly, that you nobody single would want to marry you”, my mom said what her friend told her. I’m also sure that she also share her friend’s thought. In the old days, somehow people treat it like a sin if you married a widow/widower. But in these day, people might be more open, or just don’t care if you married a single or divorced. Except maybe for friends of their parents, being raised with the antique mindset.

We were given a blessing at the end of the Mass, and I drove my car home. On the road, I started thinking: “What would I do if it is my daughter? Will I give my blessing?”. Given my circle of friends – I have 2 friends dating a widow – I won’t let the widow/single status to cloud my judgment for the spouse of my kids. A great man, or woman, will still be a great person regardless of the status. Great person also made mistake sometime.

I retired to my sleep with a little prayer: “Bless my friend, may You give her what is the best according to You. And also bless me in the future, should I face the same condition” – Amen….

The Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change; the courage to change the things i can;and the wisdom to know the difference.

–Reinhold Niebuhr

A very simple prayer, yet with a very deep meaning. Don’t try to change anything. It will only increase your stress level, and soon or later, will kill you!

Before try to change anything, you must accept the situation. It happens already, nothing you can do to reverse it. By accepting the situation, it will significantly reduce your stress level, and help to clear your mind.

Once you regain your mind, start thinking of solution. With clear mind, you will be able to analyze the situation better, and come up with solution to prevent things from getting worse, and make recovery action. With cluttered mind, your solution will be less effective.

(Special Thanks to my Lecturer, Mr Ignas Sidik, for citing this prayer and its meaning in this evening class)

A Prayer

Dear God Almighty,
I come to You for forgiveness
For my sin, my hight hearted
For my lack of gratitude to your blessing
For my ignorance to my familiy, especially my mom
For my lack of respect to my friends

I come for your blessing
Blessing for strength to face my situation
Blessing for getting out of this bad situation

I promise to run a charity
So that I can share your blessing
For those who in needs

Thank you God…
Thank you for everything

Welcome 2005

Time flies, year 2004 has past. We grow older and (hopefully) wiser :D.

Last year was a very wonderful year for me. I went to 3 new places, Bali, Bangkok, and of course, the lovely Bangka and Bunaken at Manado. I managed to fulfill my financial goal, learning and invest in mutual fund. I made a lot of new friends, friends that cheered up the passing year, and I hope will also make this year another wonderful year.

Nevertheless, I do miss some of my personal goals, which I gonna try to make it up this year. I would like to improve my emotion control, communication, and leadership skill. Also, I would like to improve my financial and business skills… maybe if I can turn back time, I would consider economics :). And also, I would like to start my own business…. got lots of things running into my head, just need to pull up the guts. I also have some financial goals, which I’ll keep as my secret :D.

So…. lets open the first post in the year with a prayer:
“Thanks God for a wonderfull year that have passed, a year full of challenge, pain, yet, they made us stronger. A year full of joy, chance to praise Your creation of the land sky and sea, A year full of happiness and wonderful friends. May You guide us in the coming year, and make us stronger, to fulfill our purpose as Your servant, and as human being… Amen”

Happy New Year 2005.